Meredith and Cristina

Grey's Anatomy has been my Netflix show for the past month or two. And last night I finished season 10 episode 24. It's over. What will I do with myself? Well, for the moment I am pondering the greatest television love story. Meredith and Cristina. Sure there are husbands and failed weddings.  Babies and other friends. And oh Shonda Rhimes as the head all of this series. While I do not agree with most of what she writes; everything is temporary in Shondaland, except, Mer and Cristina's friendship. There are fights, competition, life changes, bombs, gunmen- well one, plane crashes and the Harper Avery nomination. And do you guys know what, ten seasons and all of that later, and Cristina tells Meredith as she prepares to board her plane:


“Don’t let Owen get all dark and twisty. Take care of him. And Alex, take care of Alex. He needs to be mocked at least once a day or he’ll be insufferable. Don’t get on any tiny little planes that can crash or stick your hand in a body cavity that has a bomb in it or off your life to a gunman. Don’t do that. Don’t be a hero. You’re my person. I need you alive. You make me brave. Okay, now we dance it out." 

In a world that thrives on the silent truth that everything is temporary; people are replaceable. Marriage vows that state: for richer or poorer; in sickness and health, till death do is part; are being tossed aside. Let alone friendship that hold no covenant value. And on a tv show that glorifies tolerance, sex, and every other type of drama, Shonda Rhimes does it right AND WITH A FRIENDSHIP. Meredith and Cristina are a glimpse to the relationships that Jesus wants us to have. They fight. They get angry. They give the silent treatment. And they forgive. The writers of Grey's may have started to notice that they take huge events and make them small. Something big happens and two episodes later that same incident doesn't even get an acknowledgement. But not with Grey an Yang. We have to endure episode upon episode of awkward, uncomfortable tension. Shonda fix it! But that is real life. And then, there it is the talk. The forgiveness. The moving pass this because you are y person and I cannot live life without you. The reminder that people are worth fighting for and forgiving. That there are some that stick with you past the failures, the discouragements. When everyone else leaves the building they are still there. Willing and ready to defend and love you through it. That is what we learn from Cristina and Meredith.

That is biblical. David and Jonathan. Jesus, Peter, and John. Yes, Peter. I mean, come on guys, Peter messed up. We all do. And although Jesus knew John was his ride or die friend, he knew that Peter  was also His person. And what did He do? He called him back. We don't call people back.  We do not forgive. We replace people.

But the truth is when you find your people, ou have to be there people. What does beig their people mean? It means telling them the truth. Even when it hurts or when it is not in the best interest of the casualties around. That means despite what husbands, boyfriends, parents say- your person needs to hear truth from you. Sometimes you have to say:



I gotta go. You stay here. You are a gifted surgeon with an extraordinary mind. Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. You are.

We have to speak truth. We have to be honest. I have to speak truth. I have to be honest. I don't like fighting. I do not like speaking words that hurt. But sometimes hurting someone out of love, ends up helping them in a way nice words never will. So speak truth. Love your people for who they are. Not for who you want them to be. Love them wen if they do not want kids; yours or their own.  Love them because they love you and you cannot love without them.